Fact Sheet on Domestic Violence in Colorado
As our nation grapples with laws around gun ownership, we have received many questions about the connection between firearms and domestic violence. Here's some of the latest research on that subject from the Battered Women's Justice Project.
What is Domestic Violence?
Domestic violence is a pattern of abusive behavior used by the abuser to gain or maintain control over the victim. Domestic violence happens in all races, age groups, sexual orientations, religions, social classes, economic backgrounds and education levels. It can occur in opposite-sex and same-sex relationships; between partners who are married, living together, dating or those who are no longer in a relationship together.
Types of Abuse:
- Physical abuse can include hitting, grabbing, shoving, throwing, punching, biting, or hair-pulling. Holding someone down during an argument or blocking a doorway so they can't leave is also domestic violence. Abusers will often injure a victim in places on her body that can be hidden by clothes, hair or make-up. Physical abuse also includes denying the victim medical attention or forcing the victim to use drugs or alcohol.
- Emotional abuse is still abuse, even if it leaves no bruises. It can include constant criticism, humiliation, name-calling or making the victim think she is crazy.
- Sexual abuse can include forcing a victim to have sex when she does not want to, expecting sex on demand, injuring sexual parts of the body, or forcing the victim to do sexually humiliating acts.
- Economic abuse can force a victim to be financially dependent on her abuser, making it difficult to leave the situation. Economic abuse includes not allowing the victim to work or have access to money, forcing the victim to give her money to the abuser, withholding information about family finances or not allowing the victim to have a say in how money is spent.
Common tactics used by abusers:
- Isolating the victim from family and friends, sometimes using jealousy to justify controlling where a victim goes, who she sees or who she talks to.
- Intimidating the victim by smashing things, punching walls, threatening or abusing children and pets, displaying weapons, or even through threatening looks or gestures.
- Controlling all significant decisions and acting like the "king of the castle" - the victim has little or no power in the relationship or the household.
- Minimizing the abuse by saying it didn't happen or wasn't a big deal, blaming the victim for making the abuser angry or saying the victim made the abuser do something because of the victim's actions or words.
- Threatening to have the children taken away from the victim or using visitation with the children to harass the victim.
- Threatening suicide if the victim leaves, or threatening to kill the victim if she leaves.
The US Department of Justice estimates that more than 90% of all relationship violence victims are female and most abusers are male. For that reason, this website frequently uses "she" when referring to victims and "he" when referring to abusers.
However, whether the victim is male or female, violence of any kind is unacceptable in relationships. Male victims of domestic violence should access our list of Colorado Crisis Numbers or call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at at 800.799.SAFE.